Does Teaching Obedience To Toddlers Matter?

Teaching obedience from the time a child first begins to understand our words (around 12 months for most children), is the easiest way. For example, little toddlers often turn and run the other direction when Mom or Dad calls to them. They look so cute with their toddling run and laughing face that Mom or Dad usually runs after them smiling and saying things like, "Oh, come back here, you cutie!" in a sing-song voice. When the parent catches up to the child, he picks her up and kisses her face. We've all done it!

Think about it for a moment. What did the little toddler learn? Daddy thinks it's funny when I run away from him. About four years later, Mom and Dad are in the grocery store with a five-year-old. Joey's checking out the sugar cereal displays, and Mom is turning the corner to the next aisle. "Come on, Joey," she says. But Joey turns and walks in the other direction. It's not cute anymore!

Paving The Path For Obedient Children

If you have any babies or toddlers in your home, think about what behaviors seem cute today that will be far from it in just a few short years. It's not hard to take steps to curb unwanted behavior in a very young child. For example, that toddler who runs away: Follow him without smiling--there's no need to be angry, just don't smile and laugh.

When you reach the little one, kneel down to his level, look into his eyes and say, "Daddy told you to come. You will not run away from me." Be serious. Little children this age respond very well to the emotions their parents display. They can tell the difference between a happy, playful parent and a serious, disappointed parent. They always prefer the laughing one!

Your facial expression and tone of voice will go a long way toward changing your toddler's behavior. Sure, little Sally will run away again, probably the next time you call. Continue your serious response and don't give in to laughing about it, and she'll get the picture very soon.

Teaching Obedience In All Things

I'm using running away as an example, but many behaviors can be handled the same way: throwing spoons on the floor during meals, hitting, screaming, jerking away when Mom or Dad tries to hold the toddler's hand.

Ask yourself what behaviors you would like to see changed in your little one. Make a list if you need to, and then begin to change your own response to these behaviors. Again, there is no need to be angry or display an angry attitude. Seriousness, the lack of a smile, will mean much more to your toddler.

Psalm 34:11 - Come, ye children, hearken unto me: I will teach you the fear of the LORD.