How Do You effectively Implement An Authoritative Parenting Style?

Authoritative parents set reasonable expectations for their children while allowing open conversations about the rules. In many cases, rules are written by the family as a unit. Children give suggestions for rules and consequences, which makes them easier to enforce later on. The parents, though, make the final decision.

The family often has discussions about the reasons behind certain rules. This type of parents may explain, "When you leave your toys on the floor, it is dangerous. Someone can trip and fall. Besides, it makes our home look messy. You need to put your toys away so that we can have a safe and clean home." Children understand why it is necessary to clean up the toys and may be able to apply the rule to the yard, her bedroom, and her classroom at school.

Parents may choose this method because they believe in a democracy where everyone gets a say. They may believe that everyone has a right to their own opinion. Others may choose this style simply because they feel like it falls somewhere in the middle between strict and permissive. They may not be sure if they agree with it, but they want to establish order without being overly strict.

Pros and Cons

There are various reasons why this method is appropriate. The best outcome of this method is that children will be able to verbalize their moral beliefs. They will be able to tell another person why they behave. Families with this parenting style experience a healthy balance. Children are nurtured and loved, but also disciplined fairly. Parental expectations are age-appropriate.

This method is favorable up to a point. Parents must be well balanced or they can become entangled in a battle of wits with children. Children love to question authority and to give their own ideas. If parents do not set a limit, children will continue to use questioning as a way to challenge authority and refuse to comply.

Effects On Children

• Children will feel like they are an important part of something (your family).
• Children will have a healthy sense of identity and self esteem. These children will have no trouble speaking their mind.
• Healthy relationships - Children will experience healthy relationships with their parents and eventually, with others in the community.
• Creativity - Children become thinkers and problem solvers.
• Outspoken - Children may become opinionated and expect everyone to care about what they have to say.

Where Do You Go From Here?

There has to be a point in which the parent makes an executive decision. Don't be afraid to reject ideas and be in command every once in a while. Remember that while it is great to respect your children's opinions, they do not know what is best for them. You do.